October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to illuminate the often-hidden struggles faced by individuals in abusive relationships. At One Love, we believe that sharing stories empowers survivors and helps others recognize the signs of relationship abuse. Here are a few powerful narratives from our “Share Your Story” campaign that remind us of the importance of support and resilience. Your story has the incredible power to bring hope to fellow survivors. Every journey is unique, and by sharing your experiences, you can offer strength and courage to others who are navigating their own paths to healing. If you believe your story can provide hope and healing, we invite you to share it with us. Our goal is to uplift teens who may currently be facing various challenges, helping them see that they are not alone and that recovery is possible through the support of a caring community. 

Aubrey’s Journey to Self-Discovery 

Aubrey faced bullying from the age of twelve, feeling isolated for years. When she met someone who made her feel valued, it seemed like a turning point. However, the relationship turned controlling. “I realized he was demanding unreasonable requests for my money and intimacy,” Aubrey shares. 

Despite the ridicule she endured, new friendships in college showed her what real love looked like, helping her break free from the relationship. Aubrey emphasizes: “No one deserves to feel trapped. Find your people who help you channel your inner strength; it may save your life.” 

Kia’s Empowering Path 

Kia is a survivor of child sexual abuse and domestic violence. Despite her trauma, she is pursuing a double major in criminal justice and paralegal studies to become a victim advocate, supporting those who feel they have lost their voice. Her journey illustrates that pain can be transformed into purpose. 

Carson’s Road to Recovery 

After a year in an unhealthy relationship, Carson felt hopeless and self-doubting. Prioritizing his health and cutting unhealthy ties helped him reclaim his life. “Two years later, I am exactly where I want to be,” Carson shares, reminding us that healing is possible. 

These stories show that while the journey through relationship abuse is challenging, there is strength in community and power in sharing our truths. One Love is dedicated to providing free resources to youth on recognizing and addressing relationship abuse. If you or someone you know is experiencing relationship abuse, you are not alone. 

Visit our website to share your story and access valuable resources. Together, we can foster a community that promotes love, respect, and empowerment. 

Help us continue our mission—donate today! For more information, visit One Love Foundation. 

— Carla M Kozen, Content Manager 

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Why Does DVAM Matter? 

You might be wondering, “Why should I care?” Domestic violence affects people of all ages and backgrounds, and it’s not just about physical abuse; it includes emotional and financial abuse too. DVAM is crucial because it: 

1. Educates: We need to recognize the signs of unhealthy relationships to protect ourselves and our friends. 

1. Destigmatizes: Talking about domestic violence openly helps break the stigma and makes it easier for people who experience abuse to seek help. 

1. Empowers: Share Your Story to empower others and build a supportive community! 

One Love is Here for You  

One Love is dedicated to providing the resources and support you need to understand healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. We offer: 

• Workshops & Events: Join us for interactive workshops that dive deep into the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, and how to support a friend who may be experiencing abuse. 

• Online Resources: Check out our website for blogs and videos that break down complex relationship health topics. 

• Advocacy: Use social media to spread the word about DVAM! The more people know about the warning signs, the easier it is to get help and get out of an abusive situation before it escalates. 

Mark Your Calendars!  

Don’t forget to wear purple on October 24th for Wear Purple Day to show your support for those who have experienced domestic violence. 

Take Action! 

Here’s how you can get involved this DVAM: 

• Educate Yourself: Learn the signs of unhealthy relationships. 

• Spread the Word: Share information about DVAM and One Love’s resources. 

• Donate: Your contribution helps us bring our resources to more youth. 

Remember, you’re not alone. One Love is here to support you as you navigate relationships and empower you to recognize what’s healthy and promote love in all its forms! 

–Carla M Kozen, Content Manager

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For a step-by-step guide on how to help a friend in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, visit our resource here or download the guide here. 

When to Help (And When Not To) 

According to one high school senior, jumping in right away might feel awkward or even make things worse. As another high school senior said, “99% of friends won’t say anything in the moment.” Instead, try pulling your friend aside later or sending a simple text: “Hey, are you okay?” 

Listen First, Don’t Push 

Your friend might get defensive if you come on too strong or speak negatively about their partner. One teen shared, “People get defensive if you come out against their partner.” It’s better to wait until they’re ready to talk and just listen. This shows you’re there when they need you. 

A Simple Check-In Goes a Long Way 

A college student said, “If I see a friend struggling, I ask, ‘Hey, are you okay?’” It’s simple, but can open the door for a deeper conversation. Even if they don’t want to talk, just knowing you’re there matters.” 

It’s Okay to Feel Unsure 

“Helping isn’t always easy, and it’s normal to feel confused or frustrated. But just showing that you care, even if you don’t have all the answers, can make a big difference.” 

Final Thoughts 

A college student shared, “If I see a friend struggling, I ask, ‘Hey, are you okay?’” It’s a simple question, but it can open the door to a deeper conversation. Even if they don’t want to talk, just knowing you’re there matters. It’s important to remember that it can take time—on average, someone may attempt to leave an abusive relationship seven times before they succeed—and it’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize self-care while supporting them. 

— Carla M Kozen, Content Manager

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A Personal Story from Miss Kansas, Alexis Smith 

“As Miss Kansas, I’ve had to confront my past in ways I never imagined. When I saw my ex-partner in the audience my psychological reaction of “fight or flight” resulted in me fleeting to the safety of my trusted directors and family. I felt alarmed, confused, and frustrated. I carried those feelings throughout the rest of the competition. During my final question, these emotions drove my response and I was reminded of the strength it took to leave that unhealthy relationship and reclaim my power. That moment wasn’t just about winning a title—it was about standing up for myself and anyone who has ever felt trapped in relationship abuse. Sharing my story has been a deeply personal journey, and I hope that by opening up about my experiences, I can help others who are dealing with similar situations. Together with the One Love Foundation, I’m committed to providing the education and support needed to recognize the signs of unhealthy relationships and take steps toward safety and healing.” 

Breaking up is tough, but leaving an unhealthy relationship takes extra courage and planning. Here’s the tea: safety planning isn’t just for the breakup itself—it’s for before, during, AND after. Let’s get into it. 

Safety Planning Basics 

First things first, check out the Safety Planning Worksheet at One Love’s Education Center. It’s packed with questions that help you stay safe longer-term. You can also check out our real-time resources page for a list of helpful partner organizations. Some key points to consider: 

• Safe Breakup Spots: Choose a public place for the breakup where you feel safe. 

• Avoid Unplanned Encounters: Think about where you might see them and plan how to stay safe. This could mean telling a friend or trusted adult to be there or having an exit plan if things get uncomfortable. 

School Safety Tips 

If you’re in school together, here’s what you can do: 

• Talk to Trusted Adults: Inform a teacher, guidance counselor, or coach about the situation so they can help ensure you aren’t paired together in projects or practice. 

• Stay in Safe Zones: Stick around friends or areas where you feel secure. 

• Safety on Campus: Ensure that doors and windows are locked when you’re alone. 

Social Media Smarts 

Social media can be a minefield post-breakup. Here’s how to navigate it: 

• Screenshot Evidence: Before blocking an abusive partner, it’s crucial to first screenshot any evidence. For instance, on Facebook, blocking someone removes access to the message thread. If you need that thread later, you’d have to unblock them for 48 hours, which could be risky. 

• Update Passwords: Change your passwords, especially if they were shared, to secure your accounts. 

• Take A Break from Social Media: Taking a break from social media can be a valuable step in focusing on your hobbies, interests, and support groups, which can strengthen your mental health and independence. 

• Block/Unfollow: Make sure they can’t see your posts or contact you. Also, it’s okay to unfollow or block friends who are not supportive of you ending the relationship. 

• Go Private: Make your account private. 

• Location Safety: Turn off location sharing and avoid posting your whereabouts in real time. This includes asking friends not to post Instagram stories or Snapchats that share your location.  

Shared Spaces 

• By now, you’ve likely seen Miss Kansas call out her abusive partner for being in the audience as she was crowned. Let’s talk about being around your abuser after the breakup. What if you hang out with the same friends or they frequent your workplace? Here are some tips: 

• Communicate: Let your friends know the situation so they can support you. 

• Create Boundaries: Set boundaries with family and friends when it comes to the relationship. 

• Acknowledge Safety Over Comfort: Prioritize your safety over the comfort of others. Friends may devalue the situation for the sake of shared spaces, but your well-being comes first. 

• Share Location with a Trusted Individual: Ensure someone you trust knows where you are. 

• Stay Alert: Be aware of your surroundings. 

• Have a Plan: Always have a safety plan in place if they show up unexpectedly.  

By supporting One Love, you help us provide vital resources to those who need them most. Your safety is our priority—stay strong, and remember that the One Love Foundation, along with trusted friends or adults, is here to support you.

–Carla M Kozen, Content Manager

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